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Kink, ENM & Relationship Diversity
However you live, however you love, you're welcome here.
Affirming therapy for kink, poly, open, ENM and relationship-anarchist folks, and every relationship you've built on purpose. You bring the full picture. You decide what we work on.
What's different here
Therapy that doesn't flinch.
You won't be pathologized.
Kink and non-monogamy aren't symptoms. I won't assume your relationship structure is the source of your distress, unless you tell me it is.
You won't have to educate me.
Metamours, hierarchy, compersion, negotiation, aftercare, protocols. I know the language, so your session stays yours.
You set the agenda.
Some people come to work on their relationships. Others come for something else entirely and just need a therapist who won't get distracted by them.
Who this is for
However you've built it.
What we can work on
The real stuff, said out loud.
Opening a relationship
Pacing, agreements and the fears nobody says out loud, worked through before they turn into ruptures.
Jealousy & insecurity
Understood, not shamed. The part of you that feels jealous is usually protecting something important.
Agreements & boundaries
Facilitated sessions to put your values, agreements and boundaries into words everyone can actually live with.
Metamour & polycule dynamics
Communication, conflict and repair across a network of relationships, not just between two people.
Kink & identity
Exploring desire, integrating kink into your sense of self, and deciding who gets to know.
Shame around sex & desire
Including religious, cultural and family messages you absorbed long before you had words for what you wanted.
Mixed mono/poly relationships
When partners want different things, and both of you deserve to be taken seriously.
When a line was crossed
Consent violations in a scene or a relationship are trauma, and they're treated with the same care as any other.
How I work
Every part is welcome, including the jealous one.
I draw on Internal Family Systems to get curious about the parts of you that feel scared, possessive or ashamed, instead of fighting them. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps with attachment across more than one relationship. When old wounds are running the show, EMDR and Brainspotting help us process what's underneath.
I'm currently completing sex therapy certification through the Sexual Health Alliance, an AASECT-approved program, so this work rests on formal training, not just good intentions.
At every intersection
Your relationship structure doesn't exist apart from the rest of you.
Your race, gender, sexuality, neurotype and history all shape how you love and what you need. Black kinky folks, queer polycules, neurodivergent people navigating ENM: your care should hold all of it at once.
Ways to work together
Solo, as partners or as a whole polycule
Questions people ask
Will you try to make my relationship monogamous?
No. My job is to help you build the relationships you actually want, not the ones someone else thinks you should have.
Can more than one partner come to sessions?
Yes. Relationship therapy is open to any configuration. Each person attending needs to be located in one of the six states where I practice (AZ, GA, IN, LA, MN or OH) during the session.
I'm not in a relationship right now. Is this still for me?
Absolutely. Plenty of people come to explore what they want, untangle old messages about desire, or heal from a past relationship before starting the next one.
Is what I share kept confidential?
Yes, within the standard legal and ethical limits I'll walk you through at intake. Your sessions are held on a secure telehealth platform.
Related specialties: LGBTQIA+ · Sexual Health · Shame